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18 Transformative Moments For Women in 2014(Part 2)

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11.Emma Watson Launched The #HeForShe Campaign, Calling Men To Act Against Sexism
During a Sept. 21 address to the UN, the actress introduced the #HeForShe campaign, which encourages men to join the fight for gender equality.

”When I was 8, I was confused about being called “bossy” because I wanted to direct the plays that we would put on for our parents. But the boys were not. When at 14, I started to be sexualized by certain elements of the media, when at 15, my girlfriends started dropping out of their beloved sports teams because they didn’t want to appear “muscle-y,” when at 18, my male friends were unable to express their feelings, I decided that I was a feminist. And this seems uncomplicated to me. But my recent research has shown me that feminism has become an unpopular word. Women are choosing not to identify as feminists.

Apparently, I am among the ranks of women whose expressions are seen as too strong, “too aggressive,” isolating, and anti-men, unattractive, even. Why has the word become such an uncomfortable one?The more I have spoken about feminism the more I have realized that fighting for women’s rights has too often become synonymous with man-hating,” Watson said. “If there is one thing I know for certain, it is that this has to stop… Men — I would like to take this opportunity to extend your formal invitation. Gender equality is your issue too.”

12.Gabrielle Union And Jennifer Lawrence Responded Eloquently And With Class To Their Nude Photos Being Stolen
After private photographs were stolen and published on the Internet, Jennifer Lawrence and Gabrielle Union spoke out about the violation. Lawrence referred to the hack as “a sex crime,” telling Vanity Fair: “Just because I’m a public figure, just because I’m an actress, does not mean that I asked for this. It does not mean that it comes with the territory. It’s my body, and it should be my choice, and the fact that it is not my choice is absolutely disgusting. I can’t believe that we even live in that kind of world.I started to write an apology, but I don’t have anything to say I’m sorry for,” she said. Amen to that.”

13. Mo’ne Davis made everyone want to “throw like a girl.”

When the 13-year-old Davis led her team to the Little League World Series, it’s safe to say she captivated the nation. Poised and confident, Davis was an instant role model for millions of little girls — and boys — and also was the first Little Leaguer to grace a Sports Illustrated cover. To top it off, she was also recently named Sports Illustrated Kid‘s “SportsKid of the Year.” You go, girl.

14.When Indian actress Mallika Sherawat shut down a reporter for asking her to stay silent on the issue of women’s rights.

”Indian society is regressive for women. With female feticide, infanticide happening on an almost daily basis; with gang rapes making the headlines of almost every newspaper; with honor killings… I think it’s a very, very regressive state for women.As a woman, I should lie about the state of women that’s in our country? So I didn’t lie. I said the truth.” Seemed pretty badass and legit to me

15.Getty Images Introduced The “Lean In” Collection
We’re all tired of stock photos that feature women laughing alone with salad. This year, Getty Images teamed up with “Lean In” and released a new stock photo gallery with 2,500 images breaking down stereotypes about gender roles.

“The stock imagery around women is embarrassing,” Jessica Bennett, contributing editor at LeanIn.org, said in a press release. “You can’t be what you can’t see, so if women and girls are not seeing images of powerful women and girls who are leaders, then they may not aspire to become that.” We are extremely thankful to Sheryl sandberg for blessing this with the term ‘lean in’

16. Aziz Ansari broke down feminism for dudes.

During his appearance on the Late Show with David Letterman in October, Ansari made crucial points about feminism to an otherwise pretty mainstream late night audience: “If you look up feminism in the dictionary, it just means that men and women have equal rights. And I feel like everyone here believes men and women have equal rights. But I think the reason people don’t clap is that word is so weirdly used in our culture.”

Ansari’s message was clear — feminism is not about pitting men and women against each other. “If you believe that men and women have equal rights, if someone asks if you’re feminist, you have to say yes because that is how words work,” he said. “You can’t be like, ‘Oh yeah, I’m a doctor that primarily does diseases of the skin.’ Oh, so you’re a dermatologist? ‘Oh no, that’s way too aggressive of a word! No no, not at all, not at all.'”

17. Cosmo redefined its target female.

In addition to launching the #CosmoVotes initiative to engage the young female electorate,Cosmopolitan‘s decision to increase its feminist content and redefine its standard reader is a testament to the mainstreaming of the modern female-empowered movement. In the words of Joanna Coales, the editor-in-chief, the new Cosmo woman is “interested in mascara and the Middle East.” Clearly, being interested in sex and fashion doesn’t mean women aren’t also interested in solving the global oil crisis.

18. Frozen gave us a lot of feelings — and broke all the records.

Signaling an important break in the traditional princess genre, Disney’s smash hit Frozen featured a prince-less feminist cartoon hero who sings, “Yes, I’m alone, but I’m alone and free!” Equally important, the blockbuster became the highest-earning animated movie of all time, proving that children — and grown-ups — will pay to watch complex and strong female characters. And it was written, directed and composed by women! Currently, only 1 in 4 speaking animated characters are female. The success of Frozen is expected to change the way we think about gender at the movies.

In 1998, Time magazine declared feminism dead. Nearly 15 years later, it wondered if instead, perhaps feminism should be banned. Constantly on attack from all sides, feminism has spent the past few decades proving its importance and relevance over and over and over again. If there’s one thing history has taught us, it’s that the backlash against feminism will always be a measure of our success. That’s the thing with progress — it is perceived as a threat by those too weak to embrace it.

Indeed, it’s clear 2014 was a historic one for feminism. Women stood up for their rights, challenged stereotypes, fought for recognition and took control of the dialogue.

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18 Transformative Moments For Women in 2014(Part 1)

 As 2014 ended, women have a whole lot to cheer about in pop culture, politics, sports, and art. Of course, this year, like every other year in human history, was ripe with misogyny, sexism, discrimination, and a long list of other terrible things. Here’s a list of groundbreaking female accomplishments, notable achievements of women, and heartwarming feminist bright spots. In no particular order,18 things you can feel good about toasting to on New Year’s Eve:

1.Women rule the roost in Bollywood
From Gulaab Gang to Mary Kom to Mardaani, these movies were a breath of fresh air for the viewers. I hope these women-centric movies continue to rock the box office in upcoming years too. Queen literally pisses over every Bollywood cliché that defined our great filmy legacy. Yes, all of them. Queen has hit 10 crore within a week. And this is not a masses movie where Salman Khan rips off clothes and rips aparts limbs – both the classes and the masses love it – it’s even hit 9.1 on IMDB, a rare feat – so rare that no Bollywood movie has EVER hit 9.1!

Kangana Ranaut. Queen stills.

2.Lupita Nyong’o Reminded Everyone That All Shades Of Black Are Beautiful
When she received the Best Breakthrough Performance Award at the 7th annual Black Women in Hollywood Luncheon on February 27, Nyong’o spoke about how she grew up hating her darker complexion and her journey to self-acceptance and self-love.

“What my mother meant when she said ‘you can’t eat beauty’ was that you can’t rely on how you look to sustain you. What does sustain us… what is fundamentally beautiful is compassion for yourself and for those around you.I remember a time when I too felt unbeautiful,” she told the Essence audience. “I put on the TV and only saw pale skin, I got teased and taunted about my night-shaded skin.” The path to self-acceptance is hard, she noted, but finally coming to terms with the idea that beauty comes in many shades has changed her life.

3.Deepika Padukone slammed Times Of India and owned it.
Bollywood star Deepika Padukone’s ‘cleavage row’ with an Indian newspaper is just another depressing example of how women in the public eye are reduced to their body parts.The Times of India tweeted a link to a video clip showing the chest and neck of Deepika Padukone, 28, shot from a high angle apparently by a press cameraman, to the 75,000 followers of its entertainment account. The tweet read: “OMG! Deepika Padukone’s cleavage show”. The video, reported to be a year old, was also posted on the newspaper’s entertainment site.Padukone responded by tweeting to her own 7.5m followers: “YES! I am a woman. I have breasts AND a cleavage! You got a problem!!??”Other Bollywood stars, male and female, have rushed to Padukone’s defence. “Well done taken a stand for all of us,” said Priyanka Chopra, another Bollywood A-lister, after Padukone first hit back at the newspaper.


4. A new kind of Barbie revolutionized the toy aisle. 
Did you know that if Barbie were a real woman she would be 5 feet, 9 inches with a 39-inch bust, but only a 18-inch waist, a tiny shoe size of 3 and have to crawl on all fours because her body is so small it couldn’t support her head? While there have been many attempts at a Barbie alternative, perhaps the most realistic was created this year by Nickolay Lamm, whose “average” Barbie even comes with imperfections like acne and cellulite.

5.Daniel Radcliffe Shut Down Our Ideas About “The Friendzone” And “Conventional Male Leads”
The actor has given some awesome interviews this year, and his comments about gender double standards are especially on point. Radcliffe doesn’t believe in the “friend zone” — “I definitely think the idea of friend zone is just men going, ‘This woman won’t have sex with me,'” he told BuzzFeed in January.

6.Malala Won The Nobel Peace Prize
Malala Yousafzai, age 17, was awarded the 2014 Nobel Prize for Peace. After being shot in the head by Taliban militants in 2012 simply for being a girl pursuing an education, Yousafzai has dedicated herself to campaigning for girls’ education worldwide.In addition to advocating against violence, poverty and advocating for more access to education for women and girls, the 17-year-old activist has become a symbol of hope and proof that feminism really does have the power to change the world.

7.Shonda Rhimes Got Her Very Own Night Of Television

Shonda Rhimes is a visionary writer and producer whose successful shows — her creations Grey’s Anatomy and Scandal, and How to Get Away With Murder, which Rhimes executive produces — have changed the representation of women, LGBT people, and people of color on television.
She delivered the most inspiring, strangely beautiful speech. Excerpts ”Fifty years ago, if women wanted to gather in a room, well, it had better be about babies or charity work. And the brown women were in one room over there and the white women were in a room over here.From then to now, we’ve all made such an incredible leap. Think of all of them. Fifty years ago trying to get out of separate rooms, 30 years ago trying to not serve breakfast or be groped by their bosses, 15 years ago trying to make clear that they could run a department as well as that guy over there.All the women, white, black, or brown who woke up like this, who came before me in this town.”
8.Delnaaz Irani walks the ramp
It was definitely a proud moment to see a plus size woman walking the ramp and feeling beautiful. Given India’s obsession to only accept skinny persons as models. Delnaaz walking the ramp as a showstopper was an achievement in its own dimension. Great going India!
9.Badass Women Wrote Awesome Feminist Books and were super hilarious. 
Amy Poehler wrote Yes Please. Roxane Gay wrote Bad Feminist. Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie released We Should All Be Feminists. Sophia Amoruso wrote #GIRLBOSS. Rebecca Solnit wrote Men Explain Things To Me. And, obviously, Hillary Clinton wrote Hard Choices. We may need to buy a bigger bookshelf. Mindy Kaling nailed being Mindy Kaling.
   

10.That Beyoncé Moment At The VMAs


Queen Bey’s performance featured her in front of a huge “FEMINIST” sign.The world’s biggest diva proved feminism wasn’t just accessible, it was cool. What more is there to say?

Continued Article : 18 Transformative Moments For Women in 2014(Part 2)

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6 Underrated Reasons Why Its Awesome Being Single This Holiday Season.

This Holiday Season can be an upsetting reminder of single relationship status. And how could it not? With three “romantic” holidays right in a row how can they not be reminded of being single with mistletoe, midnight kisses and cupid slapping them in the face? But, being single during the holidays doesn’t need to be bad thing. In fact,being a single lady during the holidays is the best way to be.

1. You Save A LOT of money by not buying presents for your substantial other half. 
Buy yourself something instead. You deserve it.You can take advantage of all those sales and get yourself something fabulous. The only crazy family you have to gift is your own. May your wallet look nice and full.
And you don’t have to pretend to like cheesy gifts your significant other would get you.

 2. You can eat and sleep HOW MUCH EVER you want
Basically every holiday gives us much needed opportunity to sleep for 14 hours straight and loading on those carbs.Ýou can freely stuff your face. Think Theobroma’s Caramel shortbread brownie or extra loaded nachos at your favorite italian tapa. You are unrestricted and unaccountable and you don’t have to impress anyone or be frikkin on time.

 3. Hell, you can do whatever you wish.
No one can judge you for watching pretty woman or the dark knight series again when you curl up in a big, cozy bed. Or when you check your social media for upteenth time and misuse your time. Do whatever you want, whenever you want. You don’t have to answer to anyone(except your parents).Cheesy couple holiday cards are NOT on the agenda. You can be as quirky as you want. You don’t need to impress anyone with sexy, holiday-themed outfits, you are good with your over worn sweat pants.

4. No awkward moments with your partner’s family and friends.
No worrying about getting along with everyone and staying civil during conversations. And oh you don’t have to pretend to like your S.O.’s weird friend group during holiday parties.

6.There’s No Undue Expectations.
Expectations for the holidays are already unrealistic—single or not. It’s rare that everything will go smoothly but being solo does take part of the pressure off because you hold the power to create your own special day. The best part is that all the choices are in your hands. If you want to spend the evening sipping hot chocolate and watching a reality show marathon you can do it.

5.Focus on YOU and make it a leverage to give you a head start on your goals for 2015.
Its your time. You can be 100% selfish in a good way. Finally learn excel which you wanted to, meet that friend you have been neglecting for months, prioritize self-care. Write down everything that you learnt this year.Give yourself a deserved closure. Make a full proof plan to achieve your targets next year. Be thankful for the fresh start ahead of you, filled with new chances, new trails and new experiences.

6. ..Have more months until you have to worry about it again. Thank God.

 

Your relationship status doesn’t have to decide your holiday cheer or your life. Spend time this season reflecting on the past year and what you want out of life in the future.

Merry Christmas And A Very Happy New Year In Advance!

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If this doesn’t make you think twice about using your cell phone, nothing will.

I haven’t spoken to anyone in days. I have but I haven’t. I have read articles, seen videos and pictures. I see my friends smiling and happy on their instagram photos. I see them laugh at the things I type. I don’t see them laugh. I look at letters on a screen that say LOL and I hear them laugh in my head. I hear their voices and see their faces. I am alone but not. I have become a technical paradox. I am so alone yet I’m surrounded by everything and everyone. That’s a lie. I’m not surrounded, I’m stuck. Hello screen, goodbye reality. I have used the word ‘I’ in here so much because I’m all that’s left of the real world. Me. I have become the center of my universe.

Just like YOU.

“Call me crazy but I imagine a world where we smile for low battery”.If this video doesn’t make you think twice about using your cell phone, nothing will.

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Why Notting Hill Is The Ultimate Movie To Keep You Cozy This Winter!

How can you go wrong with a romantic comedy starring Julia Roberts and Hugh Grant? The simple answer is you can’t. This charming little movie stole our hearts.Like most good romantic comedies, everything about Notting Hill is an absolute dream. Oh, you’re a world-famous American actress, wealthy and beloved by millions? Neat. And you’re staying in one of the most beautiful neighborhoods in London. But oh no! You collide with a guy in the street and he spills orange juice all over you! Life is ruined! But wait a second. He’s an adorable, British independent bookstore owner with a group of quirky friends and charming one-liners and the face which is THAT good.

It is also a reminder that no one is immune to heartbreaks, disappoints and even bloke divorced guy deserves a happy ending. Everyone has been whitewashed equal with the unparalleled force that is attraction;Affection. Status and power and fame and wealth, beauty don’t matter. Whether single or not this movie will surely make you ask for more. The story may be a little far-fetched but then again, isn’t it always the way with romantic comedies?

And Julia Roberts’s “just be a girl, standing in front of a boy, asking him to love her” swooned us!

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When A Girl is her Own Enemy (Part Une)

When my 5 year old niece vaguely mentioned she wants to get thin, I was horrified.Constantly hearing words like gym fat shirking clothes in her surroundings  she constructed a notion in her mind that being not thin is something that is not acceptable, just like crossing the road alone or going anywhere without informing. Another 14 year old revealed that she eats little more than normal during marriages, so to balance out she reduces her food proportion vastly for preceding 3 or 4 days. According to her once you go out of shape, it is a task to get back. These might be mundane details of our every day life but this scenario doesn’t look very healthy(pun intended).

We live in a world where much emphasis is placed on how women look and the bar is constantly raised out of reach. Comparing ourselves to a Victoria’s secrets model who have  spidery long legs, tan skin, or full D cups is not justifiable.  These women are employed to work out, wear makeup, and walk a runway: they are not a legitimate comparison to the average woman. This doesn’t mean we shouldn’t do our best to be healthy and beautiful. But it does mean we stop filling our minds with an unrealistic expectation of beauty. It sends a message that if we only looked like this we would receive attention, success, and opportunity.

Nobody uses pure models anymore, all magazine and marketing firms add another element: Photoshop.

Another reason: Social Media. When teens log on to social networking sites, they see cherry-picked photographs and seemingly flawless social lives. Because people can select which images of themselves they want to present, they often choose pictures that display their best physical qualities. People viewing these images might be overwhelmed by their own apparent lack of perfection. Direct negative effect to an average woman :

•These ridiculous photos, when combined with other issues, can lead to low self-esteem, a poor body image and eating disorders like anorexia, all of which can be serious issues that can take years to battle and overcome.
•No one can have perfect skin, a size 0 body and flawless features, though we fool ourselves into thinking that it’s achievable. When young girls see their role model on the cover of a magazine conforming to these images, they think they have to as well.
•Huge amount of insecurity distracting us from the greater goods of the life.
But its Us who have accepted unrealistic beauty standards, who have let social media play such a HUGE part in our life. Beauty, Fashion industries will never stop selling.  You have the power to choose the Good.
    You deserve happiness and love and success in life simply because you are. You are more than a body. You are capable of much more than being looked at. You are not a decoration. You are YOU on purpose. You have things to do that no one else can do. You have a life to live and happiness to find and love to give. The world is more beautiful because you are here and it has nothing to do with your looks.
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Appearance is something absolute, but reality is not that way.

It baffles me that the first thing we notice in the person is his appearance. There is no getting around, we are better off being good-looking. Outer Attractiveness outweighs a person’s esteem, confidence, but of course acquired knowledge, quality of being radiant, character, essence and so on.

Even Outer Attractiveness requires general validation.Which includes having symmetrical face, structured jaw line, attire bought straight from Chanel’s runaway, luscious mane and a body of an actress from that photoshoot( Even the girl in the magazine doesn’t even look like the girl in the magazine).

And if you change your appearance, people will go at great lengths to debate whether you did justice by chopping of your locks rather than discussing close call of scottish independence referendum or rise of ISIS or recovering markets despite of global and political uncertainty or the IPTL Sania Federer game. And some people do art and craft as hobbies. We Judge. We take no time in judging a person’s mien.

It is truly a challenge to make your voice heard in a society where you are rated on the basis of your fairness, weight and that ass!

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